Just ignore friends who flakes
The ones who have no problem ditching plans last minute. They don’t respect themselves enough to give their word any value, and neither should you.
Take health seriously
Sleeping at 3am? Surviving on fast-food and restaurant dine-ins? It’s a recipe to pre-mature aging and disease. Invest on home-cooked unprocessed food and get enough sleep. You’ll realize you dont need to splurge on cosmetics and dermatological products if your eating right, drinking lot, sleeping enough and exercising regularly.
Being a victim of Fad Diets
Atkins, Cohen, Paleo, Vegan…
I’m not saying they don’t work, Im saying they’re temporary…
UNLESS
You find a way to enjoy subscribing to them. Most people follow a rigid menu plan to cut weight instantly, what happens is that they just shock their systems and binge back to their unhealthy habits right after.
I’m follow a plant-based wholefoods diet, which doesnt just work for my body but for my taste-buds as well so I am able to stick to it for seven years now. The same goes for your workout, find something that thrills or centers you. Dont just look for results, coz if you want long-term benefits, you’re gonna have to sign up to a regular classes. This is only gonna happen if you’re into it.
Shut-up about your friend’s partners.
Don’t like him/her? It’s not your relationship, save your opinion to those who care (which is no one). Have your buddy’s back in his/her relationship, they don’t need your approval, but they will appreciate your support.
Stop buying excuses
Maybe s/he was too busy to return an SMS or pick-up a call, Maybe not. A person who wants to be a part of your life will make an effort to be in it. Cliche but totally true. That means acknowledging your messages and phone calls, even if it’s only to tell you they’ll call back later (which they shouldn’t forget to).
Remember that the first phase of any relationship (dating) is the most crucial, if s/he aint willing to go out of his/her way for you at this stage, you can be sure they wont at any point.
Drop the mind-games
Dating? Stop toying with his/her head and emotions. It’s a waste of time, don’t you have more important stuff to do? Say what you mean and mean what you say. ALWAYS follow through and never waste a minute on anyone who cannot do the same for you.
Know WHO you want to be with
Im not talking about the dumb and dumber list. We all want Young, hot and rich but that’s not what will stop us (or them) from straying when s/he gets older, fatter or broke (which we all get a bit of at some point in our lives, this is a FACT).
Be aware of what really matters to you: Independence? Sense of humor? Drive? Consistency? Stability? Spontaneity? What are your none-negotiables? You should have a clear mental note of what your none-negotiables are, Love is an everyday choice, it’s easier to choose when your needs are being met.
Work for Love
Most of your time and energy will be devoted into your work. Steve Jobs was right on this one, the only way to do good work is to believe youre doing great work. Life’s too short to stay in a job you hate. Youre young enough to jump ships, start anew but old enough to afford more risks.
Stop buying self-worth
Those blings, bags, shoes and gadgets that are out of your budget but you buy anyway coz it’s cool ? They only impress equally superficial lots. Do yourself a favor and invest on growth: trainings, hobbies, traveling… Anything that advances your skill and grasp of the world. You may not get a lot of attention from these immediately as a brand new German car would but you will earn loads of respect, which at this point, should be more important than awe.
Love yourself first
And I dont mean be selfish. Respect your commitments and accountabilities to your relationships, but know where to draw the line. Your family doesnt like your significant other? It’s not their heart on the line. Your friends thinks your job’s too limiting? As long as it fulfills you, it’s your hours not theirs. Your fiance doesnt resonate with your lifestyle? By all means compromise, just not yourself. Love is the greatest equalizer, next to death. People who loves you will always find a way to live with the choices you make, they may not support it, but they shouldn’t be against it either, unless its illegal, but that’s a category on its own.
Prioritize relationships
Your mom, your bestfriend, your dog. It’s easy to take the people who loves us the most for granted because they’re always there anyway. DONT. Relationships are the biggest investments you’re gonna be making in this life, and like all investments they require maintenance. There will come a time they wont be around anymore, don’t let that be attributed to neglect on your part. Trust me, it’s a regret you don’t want to have.
Fight for what you want
You shouldve realized your not entitled to anything by now. Not to money, not to friendship, not to Love. Earn these all and you will not be lost on how to grow them.
At one point I lost my house, my car, my family and my relationship to build the career that I want. Now I may not have everything back yet but it’s getting there. Looking back, it may have been one hell of a struggle but I wouldnt have done it any other way.
There is no such thing as TOO HARD only NOT WORTH IT. So ask yourself what’s worth pursuing and run after it and don’t you dare look back.
No excuses, no bullshi*t.