It’s just become too easy, too instant, and everyone has become disposable.
Too many faces, too little characters. Too many words, too lil meaning. Too many places too lil moments.
Too much sex, not enough affection.
Too much weight on connection but with little to no regards on commitment.
Too much emphasis on companionship, not enough appreciation for friendship.
We obsess with connection, not realizing it’s just one of the many kinds of stimulation. Options overtook Choice and not settling became synonymous with just changing-
No one wants to make an effort anymore. It’s just easier to switch.
Why bother working things out when you can meet someone “more compatible.”
Did we forget, that compatibility was never automatic?
It takes time to build genuine rapport, it takes even longer to iron-out differences-
We lost our sense of compassion for the person-coz were too occupied looking for the next interesting distraction, afraid we’ll miss out on “the one”, forgetting that the person were with now (or then) was once that “someone” we could only aspire to be with.
We all want someone who fits perfectly in our allotted space- too close and we get overwhelmed, too far and we forget. So we tread tiptoeing to maintain balance, until we trip- inevitably clashing.
We dont want to “try” anymore, therefore anyone who didnt fit the shoe was dismissed as a “mismatch.”
And the search goes on.
I stopped dating because people stopped seeing anyone outside the promise they hold.
We’ve become too consumed with our idea of the “right one” to bother with the “real one.”
I couldnt live up to my exes idea of me, and they couldnt step up to be the Man I needed them to be…
No one was ever good enough, because everyone required too much work to keep.Being alone is easier, and the remedy for loneliness was just a click, a dial, a drink away. Why bother with the struggle?
The truth is, we all dont know who or what were looking for until it’s there. Most of us wont even recognize it when we have it…
Because that thing were looking for, was never with anyone else. It was in us all along.
We dont give to get, we give because were over-flowing-
To make space for more.
If there are highs, there must be lows. It’s what we signed up for when we took that chance. The trick is staying with the fall so we can rise only to go low all over again.
Dare to choose to stay. Try harder. Fight harder. Fail better.
I stopped dating because I already know, I am already sure and I dont have to look anymore.
I already chose.
WEIZEL GULFAN is a Plantbased Nutritionist and a Certified yoga instructor based in Manila. In between running her sustainable health food company Cocogreen, and practicing yoga- she travels and immerses herself in lives and places.